Saturday, October 6, 2012

Debates are not for the home

As we all know, it is political season.  You cannot turn on the television without seeing commercials of one candidate putting down another candidate. 

A home should not be run like a political debate.  When the parent sets the rules, the children should abide by the rules.  It should not be open for discussion and the children absolutely should not be bashing your rules.  As a single parent it is very hard because many times you have 2, 3 or 4 kids against one parent.  Because we as single parents do not have anyone backing us up, it is sometimes easier to just give in.  It becomes easier to dismiss the comments bashing our rules.  Sometimes we become too tired so we easily give in and let our children have what they want.

Our children are priceless, they cannot be replaced and we only get one chance.  We need to realize that we are molding a masterpiece in each one of our children.  God has entrusted us to raise, nurture and care for each child that we have.  The trust that God has placed upon us to raise our children the right way should not be taken lightly. 

The time to start molding is the day that cute, little, chubby hand reaches out for the crystal bowl on the table.  The word "No" resounds through the house, but the little darling turns around, looks straight at you and touches the bowl anyway.  That is the very second they need to learn that it is not a discussion, it is a rule and there are consequences for disobeying and breaking the rules.

Children need the security of knowing that their mother or father loves them enough to teach them the consequences of disobeying.  When they become adults they are going to have to see first hand that there are consequences for not doing what they are told to do.  If they were not required to obey as children, they will find it very hard to obey as adults.  While at times it may only cost them their jobs, at other times it may cost them their freedom because they may be locked up in jail. 

Our homes are not the place for debates.  Let's determine to teach our children the importance of obedience right away, and teach them to obey without questioning it.  And let's have a home where the only debates are the ones on the television.

Have a great week!!!